“They don’t care about you.”  

Not the typical uplifting and supportive words you’d hope to hear from a best friend. They happen to be five of my favorite words of encouragement. Hear me out.  

We spend money we don’t have to buy things we don’t need to impress people we don’t know.  

If anything has become apparent in 2020, it’s that toilet paper is entirely more important than the latest Chanel bag. Yet, so much of the society we’ve built has been based upon thinking, feeling, buying, saying, doing and being something on the perchance that another person will think or feel a certain way about us if we do. To this I respond,  “They. Don’t. Care. About. You.”  

People think about themselves. The only real time they spend thinking  of you is when they think about what they think you will think of them. Rarely, however, do they take YOU or your actual thoughts, feelings or judgments into account. They’re typically thinking of the version of you that they have made up inside their head. If you’re honest with yourself, you’ll probably admit that you don’t  really care about the things they’re all worried you’ll care about either.  

No one cares that you spilt coffee on your blouse, that your connection on Zoom is iffy and everything is a little blurry. They can’t even see the stain. Oh, and also… they’re likely spending way more time looking at the little screen with themselves on it, not you, anyway.  They don’t care about you.  

What. A. Relief. 

When I started to become aware of just how LITTLE people care about my  daily moment-to-moment choices, the more freedom I started to feel in my life. Mind you, people care a whole helluva lot when what you say, do, feel or become adversely affects their norm and/or their creature comforts, but this tends to be a beautiful sign indicating that you are healing and implementing healthy boundaries. People who mow over boundaries really don’t relish seeing you put up a fence.  

“They don’t care about you” is all about setting yourself free. When doing this, the added benefit is that you begin to naturally let others off the hook as well. This is called an energetic shift and energy is where it’s all at.  

There is a lot of talk about “vibrational frequencies”, but WTH does  that even mean? More importantly, what does it have to do with you?  

In order to have and (*here’s the kicker) actually keep the life you desire, you must be in the energetic field that matches what you are wanting to manifest or call forth.  

I had two dreams when I was a kid: I wanted to be an actress and I  wanted a home near the beach, because I grew up with nothing and always loved movies and the ocean. They were my escape. Well, I did it. I  made it happen. I achieved ‘success’ (as the world defines it), but I  was remarkably ungrateful. My energetic field didn’t match my abundance, so I lost it. I went into a dry spell with my work for quite sometime. I was even forced to sell my beautiful home.  

I had begun a journey inward around my 25th birthday, but it would be  another 6 years before integration would allow me to apply what I was  learning. I’ve had more opportunities open to me in 2 years than I have in the entire 24 years that I’ve been acting (18 years in the Film/TV industry).  

Removing my belief that what I do and how I do it matters SOOOO much to people who don’t know me has freed me, and my energy, up in profound  ways. I enjoy myself, my job and everyday life in an entirely new way and this sense of enjoyment keeps my energetic field at an elevated level. This is like a bright, warm, glowing firelight amidst the cold, darkness of a windy winter night.  

That which I desire, now seeks me.  

The massive change I’ve noticed since caring more about what I think  of me than that of the outside world is that abundance comes to find me. I don’t have to work so hard. My dreams call me on the phone and ask me if I want them (*not kidding, this just happened again 2 weeks ago). No soliciting required.  

Quantum physics offers the deeper explanations for these happenings.  Life, deep love and my biggest aspirations have begun to move towards me as I’ve moved away from the tangible Newtonian world and into the unified connectedness of the quantum — *in English — as I’ve moved away from being worried about or concerned with what I think you think they think someone thought to think about me and began to move into the quiet, still sense that I am deeply connected to all beings including those who may be judging me.  

This way of thinking has led me to realize that if those people are judging me, they’re probably in some form of pain. This acknowledgment offers me an opportunity to provide compassion which elevates my vibrational frequency, thus pulling more of my previously-set intentions to me like a giant magnet.  

“They don’t care about you” is an invitation to exude compassion first  towards yourself then, to others and, in turn, you will see the quantum opening up to welcome you into life you’ve always wanted. AKA the best kept secret since the Pharaohs ruled Ancient Egypt.